Hey there, mama-to-be!

Feeling a little overwhelmed with all the info—or lack of it—when it comes to giving birth? You’re not alone and I’ve got your back! As a Detroit Newborn Photographer, I’ve learned some key secrets along the way that I’d like to pass on to you…

Here are 10 things your doctor probably didn’t tell you about giving birth that will help you feel more prepared and in control of your birthing experience.
(And if any of these catch your attention, jot them down and bring them up at your next appointment!)

1. You don’t have to give birth in a hospital.

Home births or birth center deliveries offer a more intimate, calm, and personalized experience. For those with low-risk pregnancies, they can be just as safe—sometimes safer—than hospital births. Plus, you’ll often have more say in how your birth unfolds.

Ask your doctor:
Would you support me and work alongside a home birth midwife if I choose that route?

2. Epidurals aren’t the only way to manage pain.

While epidurals are commonly used, they’re far from the only option. Think nitrous oxide, spinal blocks, hypnobirthing, acupuncture, massage—even just a calm environment. There are many paths to a more natural or low-intervention birth experience.

Ask your doctor:
What non-epidural pain relief methods have you seen work well for other patients?

3. You can bring your own music or sounds into the delivery room.

Music has the power to soothe, energize, and help you focus. Whether it’s your favorite playlist, nature sounds, or calming affirmations, bringing familiar sounds can help create a comforting environment during labor.

Ask your doctor:
Am I allowed to bring music or a sound machine into the birthing room?

 

4. Birthing pools can be a game changer.

Warm water can ease contractions, promote relaxation, and allow for freer movement—all of which can support labor progress. Even if a full birth in water isn’t your plan, just laboring in water can offer relief.

Ask your doctor:
Does the hospital have birth pools, or are there other ways I can use water during labor?

5. You will probably poop during labor (and that’s okay!).

It’s a normal and natural part of the birthing process, and your nurses and doctors are used to it. Don’t let this concern hold you back, it’s nothing to be embarrassed about.

6. You can labor—and deliver—in different positions.

You’re not limited to lying on your back. Positions like squatting, standing, hands-and-knees, or using a birthing stool can help labor progress and ease discomfort.

Ask your doctor:
What birthing positions are you comfortable supporting?

7. Doulas offer incredible support—beyond just the birth.

A doula is a trained professional who supports you emotionally, physically, and informationally through pregnancy, labor, and postpartum. They help you advocate for your wishes, stay grounded, and feel supported every step of the way.

Ask your doctor:
Do you often work with doulas? Any you recommend?

8. You can eat and drink during labor (in many cases).

Labor is hard work! Light snacks and fluids can help keep your energy up. Just be sure to check with your provider, as guidelines can vary.

Ask your doctor:
Under what circumstances would I not be allowed to eat or drink during labor?

9. Your mind is powerful—use it.

Techniques like visualization, meditation, breathing exercises, and hypnobirthing can help you stay calm, centered, and confident during labor. Reducing fear and stress can actually support a smoother birth.

Ask your doctor:
Are there resources or classes you’d recommend to help me prepare mentally for labor?

10. C-sections aren’t something to fear.

Sometimes, cesarean births are planned—and other times, they’re necessary in the moment. Either way, you’ll be in expert hands. Knowing what to expect can ease anxiety and help you feel more confident, even if things don’t go exactly as planned.

Ask your doctor:
In what situations do you typically recommend a c-section?

You’ve got this, mama!
Birth can be unpredictable, but being informed gives you power. Keep asking questions, follow your instincts, and remember: this is YOUR experience. You deserve to feel confident and supported every step of the way.

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